Today I was talking to a very good friend of mine. He’s Canadian (not that I have anything against Canada – the more I learn about the country the more I fall in love with it. Not the point. End of this tangent!) and full of experiences that I very much needed to hear. I always known he had dropped out of college and during this little dessert time (which needs to be a major thing for everyone) I asked him why. Finally.
I’ve been struggling in college. I’ve written about it some but I don’t think I ever got to the heart of the problem or the major cause of turmoil. There are many things I have loved about college – social life, growth in personal matters, increasing independence, and freedom (which I suppose is related to the previous one). But there are a lot of things that have hurt. Academically, I’m pretty much failing.
So he shared his story which I will shameless share: my friend had taken his dad’s advice and gone straight to college after high school. But in his heart what he had wanted was to take a break from schooling and travel and just live. It reminded me of what I wanted. He told me he went into college and pretty much drew “a major from a hat” and partied all the time because he didn’t want to go to school. Eventually he dropped out and joined the military and while there he learned something valuable: he wanted to get back into college. I nearly leaped out of my seat. I jumped and said to him, “You know how you were then, right? That’s how I am now!” I needed someone to connect to, even if the person in my nearest sights is actually three years younger than I am.
Reality checks. College is for a certain population. Be ready. Some times we will make mistakes (like me) and that you need to know it’s ohk to make those mistakes as long as you learn from them like I am continually learning from mine. As much as I would like to give up and throw in the towel, I know that even with a degree in anything I can still accomplish one dream of a younger me: travel to Korea, a land which I feel so connected and disconnects, and live there. I have friends that love and care for me that help check me so that I don’t completely dive off the cliff side. But allow just enough slack to let me travel into some really interesting areas.
How about you guys?