Don’t take it personally when you are caught in the cross fire of an assault of your friend’s. They don’t mean what they say seventy-eight percent of the time. And even if it falls in the twenty-two percent, do be aware that it is all right to ask for an apology: why? Even if circumstances explain some of their behavior (if not all), they still need to know how they treated you or what they said. Because that’s not cool, even among friends.
At the same time, be understanding.